I gave my girlfriend a promise ring in November. She wore it for a few weeks, but she never wears it anymore. I’ve asked her about it, but she says it doesn’t match her outfits. Can a ring even match outfits? Why won’t she wear it?
He he. It doesn’t match her outfits? Is this promise ring neon green?
Let’s give her the benefit of the doubt and say the commitment ring you bought just isn’t her style, and that is very possible. Most of the promise rings I’ve seen have been tasteful silver things, but there’s always the exception. Perhaps you bought her a commitment ring that is particularly gaudy? You wouldn’t be the first guy to mess up the purchasing of lady stuff.
Or maybe it is tasteful and silver and not ugly at all, but maybe silver isn’t her thing? Some women only wear certain types of jewelry, only gold, only brass, etc. Be blunt and ask her what about it doesn’t “match” her outfits? What is it she doesn’t like? Is it the cut? Is it the color? Is it the diamonds? What? And then offer to return it and buy her a promise ring she does like. If you expect her to wear it every day, it should be something she likes.
If you buy her a new one, and she’s still not wearing it, it’s time to face what’s so very obvious. A promise ring is about commitment, and if she’s choosing not to wear it, she’s not ready for that commitment. She doesn’t want to make you that promise.
That doesn’t mean your relationship is over, but it does mean you want different things. You want a serious commitment; she doesn’t. Talk to her. Is she just not ready now? Can she ever see herself being in a serious relationship with you? Talk. Talk. Talk. It’s the only solution.