Sober Sex Versus Drunk Sex
Which is better?
The Pros of Drunk Sex
When people drink, they’re less inhibited.
Alcohol is a social lubricant. Most people who’ve had a few will find it easier to talk, flirt, and be social. Likewise, they’re uninhibited in bed. They’re more likely to try new positions because they’re feeling open minded and less self-conscious. I’ve heard a lot of women say they feel sexier after they’ve been drinking, and a lot of people are more aroused when they’re drunk. All this can be helpful for people who are self-conscious about their naked bodies or their bedroom skills. Drunk people can let their fears fall away and fully enjoy the moment.
The Cons of Drunk Sex
They call it whiskey dick for a reason. If you haven’t heard of whiskey dick, basically, it’s when you’re too drunk to get hard which is sad for all those involved.
Even if you do get hard, a lot of people, such as myself, have a difficult time climaxing while intoxicated. The orgasm will be much less intense and sometimes non-existent. Of course, the pro of this is that drunk sex might last longer because both parties are experiencing desensitization due to the alcohol. Difficult time climaxing = longer sex. Unfortunately, if it lasts too long it can become painful or one or both of you might end up falling asleep before the deed is done. (Been there, done that.)
Furthermore, if you’re drunk you might not take proper precautions such as condoms. Therefore, you might have feelings of regret in the morning associated with fear of pregnancy and STDs. Also, you might feel bad about yourself or you might just regret sleeping with the person you slept with. (Beer goggles are a thing.) Also, depending on your level of drunk, you might not even remember it in the morning …
The Pros of Sober Sex
You are in control. You’re fully aware of what you’re doing. (Did you know that a person can’t legally consent to sex if they’re intoxicated?)
With sober sex you will remember it; that’s a big pro. You have full coordination, and also, if it’s good sex, you won’t have any problem climaxing. Yay, for the big O!
The Cons of Sober Sex
You’re more self-conscious which might make you less social. If you’re going to bed with someone new, you might be more nervous. You might be less likely to cum due to that self-consciousness. The amount of nervousness you experience all depends on the level of comfort you have with your body, with sex in general, and with your partner. Drunk sex does away with a lot of the social fears that come with flirting and dating and sleeping with new people.
My overall thoughts: Go for sober. Sober sex is better. The orgasms are way more intense and you’re far, far less likely to regret it. Plus, it’s intimate instead of sloppy. The cons for drunk sex are just way too high in my opinion.
Although buzzed sex might be a nice alternative.